True love is something to behold. It is not a quick infatuation. It does not flee easily. It sits and waits and patiently grows with nurture over time. Repeatedly in Song of Songs we read where the lover, or the woman says,
Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem:
Don’t excite love, don’t stir it up,
until the time is ripe—and you’re ready. (8:4 MSG)
She is speaking from experience. She is speaking to the rashness of infatuation and the idolatry of things that quickly fade. We pour our time and talent and energy into things that are right in front of us but do not last. But love is a commitment more than it is a feeling. It can “be stirred up” into a deep feeling but love encompasses more than passion and more than sentiment.
When we first come to know the extraordinary gift of God’s salvation, we are excited. We are stirred up with gratitude and our response is a fiery one. Many of us jump in with both feet and run headlong into the relationship. We have conviction that we have found the answer and we have arrived at our destination. We fill our schedule with things we believe will fuel this relationship. We focus on how to know Him more and to love and serve Him fully.
Yet for many of us, as time goes on, life gradually encroaches on this relationship. We put aside our time alone with Him for more pressing needs. Our jobs, our families, our commitments beckon to us to give a little more. They draw us further away in little steps. The rituals of our relationship with God become less pressing from our original fervor to give Him all our time and heart. We encounter conflict that wounds us and disappointment in our initial expectations. Slowly we move into a creeping apathy and the passion we once knew has been snuffed out.
By an act of God’s ever pursuing grace, the recognition of our sad state, and the conviction of his Spirit, we are beckoned back to our first love. God prepares us this time to know and receive his love that has never lessened or changed based on our behavior. God’s love for us far exceeds our understanding. 1 Corinthians 13, speaking of true love, tells us:
Love never gives up.
Love cares more for others than for self.
Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have.
Love doesn’t strut,
Doesn’t have a swelled head,
Doesn’t force itself on others,
Isn’t always “me first,”
Doesn’t fly off the handle,
Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others,
Doesn’t revel when others grovel,
Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,
Puts up with anything,
Trusts God always,
Always looks for the best,
Never looks back,
But keeps going to the end.
8-10 Love never dies. (1 Corinthians 13:4-8 MSG)
As we yield again to God’s love for us we learn to love Him and others and ourselves. This love is “as strong as death.” It will not end. It cannot “be quenched”. It continues to hope, it continues to grow, it beckons us into eternity with Him even while we face the schedules, meetings, carpools, laundry and busyness of today. This deeper place and deeper longing is the crux of Song of Songs.