There are few things more painful in this life than broken relationships or friendships that have grown cold. The loss feels cavernous and crushing. The void in the heart is astounding. The mental anguish is dizzying. In such times, it’s not unusual to wonder, “What could I have done differently?” And when you’re the cause of the broken relationship, it’s natural to ask, “How can I fix this?”
Usually, humility, confession, and a sincere apology are the keys to rebuilding a lost friendship. Admitting your faults and being willing to change your hurtful behaviors are always necessary for a restored relationship.
As with human relationships, even more so with God.
Today we are in the book of Joel. Joel was one of the earliest prophets and gave his message to the people of Judah. He was speaking to people who had allowed their relationship with God to grow cold. They had lost sight of God in the midst of their affluence. Abundance had caused them to take God for granted and to forget the One who had provided for them from the beginning. They became “ME” focused and “good life” focused and it deeply damaged their relationship with the God who loved them.
As Joel spoke, it was on the heels of a terrible plague of locusts that had devoured every green thing, leaving only desolation. This led to a famine that was followed by an awful drought. People and animals were dying for lack of food and water. He described the devastation graphically, calling the old men to confirm that there had never been one like it before (Joel 1:2). Even those who would typically be numbed out to calamity, the drunkards, felt the effect of it, for the wine producing vines had been destroyed (1:5). Priests could not perform their religious duties because there was no meat offerings or drink offerings of wine to offer in sacrifice (1:9). Cattle and sheep cried out in the fields (1:13).
Joel called the people to see the cause of the calamity as being of their own doing. Joel realized that these natural disasters suffered by the people of Judah were God’s way of getting their attention. Many centuries earlier Moses had warned that disobedience to God’s plan would lead to such catastrophes (Deuteronomy 28:38-39). God’s intention was to show the people their true helplessness and lack of control so that they might turn back to him. Only in a healthy relationship with God is there any real security in this life. But this always requires us to lose our self-sufficiency.
Joel sought to bring the people to real life-changing repentance. He knew that God wanted the people to come with torn and broken hearts and not shallow, external, religious posturing. “The Lord says, ‘Turn to me now, while there is time! Give me your hearts. Come with fasting, weeping and mourning. Don’t tear you clothing in your grief, tear you hearts.’ Return to the LORD your God, for he is gracious and merciful. He is not easily angered. He is filled with kindness and is eager not to punish you. Who knows? Perhaps even yet he will give you a reprise, sending you a blessing instead of this terrible curse. Perhaps he will give you so much that you will be able to offer grain and wine to the LORD your God as before!” (Joel 2:12-14).
Many of us have suffered through our own life’s “plagues.” Because of our negligence in our relationship with God or through our own foolish actions, we suffer painful consequences and overwhelming circumstances. This experience of helplessness is designed to cause us to seek God anew. When the friendship has grown cold, God says, “Come back to me! Commit yourself to me. Look at your heart to see what has gotten in the way of us. Be willing to remove whatever it might be and allow Me to help you to change. I want to change your pain into joy by giving you my Spirit anew!”